Be faithful in small things


After I posted this picture on Facebook I realized I had a lot more to say about this quote and about how so many of us have big dreams not just one size bigger but two or even three sizes bigger. I don’t know about you, but I am that person that has huge dreams. Having big dreams doesn’t mean to make more money, to be rich, to be the best photographer, but you can have big dreams to help others, to write a book that will help others and so so many other dreams. But so many times we just get discouraged as our dreams are so big and we just give up and say.. well I will never get there, how is it possible to get where I want to get, I don’t have time, I am a mom, I have 3, 4, or even more children. I only have one daughter and I still look at my life and my dreams and think many times, there is no way I can ever reach my dream. But I don’t give up and I try not to fall into the trap that the dream that I have has to be pursued today. No I have it tucked away really good in my heart, I know it’s there and my dad always used to tell me, be faithful in small things first. So what are the small things?

Well, most of you reading this blog are probably moms with little ones that you gave up your carrer to stay home and nurture your children. I know I did that. I did not want anybody else to raise Isadora, I wanted to be home with her and just be part of her life and be able to teach her myself about life and hopefully see the result of all my love and time spend with her when she will grow into a strong, confident and amazing young girl. But while we sit at home, most of us, still miss that feeling that we are important, that we do something more than just play and clean and cook food. We want to be creative, we want to create memories for our family and we pursue that dream and when we reach that dream then we realize… well maybe I can stay home with the kids, take pictures of them and also make some money by trying to take pictures for my friends. And you give that a try and it’s working, you love photography and you love being at home with the kids.

But all of a sudden you have another dream.. The dream to get better and better at pictures, to have a studio, to have a lot of clients and so so so much more. And don’t get me wrong that is an amazing dream but what will happen is, the dream you had to be a stay home mom and be there for your kids will suffer. I know how hard it is to balance a full time business and being a full time mom, trust me. You see that you are getting clients, economy is tough, so how can you turn away those clients? Well, I had to make myself some very hard decisions this year. I know I could work double, triple much more than I work now, I could take clients every single day of the week, travel weekends and just be this amazing photographer. And maybe I did get caught up a little too much into this about 2 years ago when I didn’t have time to even put up the Christmas tree for Isadora, didn’t have time to go at the part with her or just didn’t have time for anything anymore. And as hard as it was I just had to step back and take only very few clients last year and this year I am not taking any new clients. I know my mind goes crazy thinking, well if you say no to those clients they will never come back to you. I know that is one of our biggest fears but I always have to remind myself that I have to be faithful in the small things first. The small things right now is taking care of my daughter. I work from 8 till about 3 when I pick her up from school. After that we have activities going on, dinner, homework and so so much more. Yes I can say I work from home and she is with me but I will be lying if she is home watching TV and I am in my office. I am not home with her. I know that now with FB the big competition is to have sooo many fans and who’s page has more people talking about their page.. I hate that FB put that in there. Another reason to try to work hard to be at the top. I will not fall into the trap of trying to find ways to get that number up, not at all. I can be creative and find ways to do that but for now I do my best WHEN I can. I don’t try to discourage people from being the best they can be, but we all have seasons in life and if that season for you right now is your business then you better go at it with all your heart. But if your season is to be a mom, please, please take it show and just be a mom. I was in shock one year when I looked back and I barely had time to take any pictures of Isadora:(.. I had time for everybody else but creating memories for her.

If you started photography with the idea to create lasting memories for your family, please be honest with yourself and see where are you today. If you are barely able to be a mommy to your children and never even have time to take their pictures, try to think back on what’s important in life. Our kids don’t want more toys that we can buy with the money we make, they want us to be there for them. I know everybody says.. Ohh time passes by sooo fast, can’t believe that my kids are all grown up and I used to look at those people and think.. hmm are you sure??? cause for me time doesn’t pass fast at all.. when I have to stay home and do the same thing over and over and over again. But next month Isadora is turning 7 and I get tears in my eyes and I have to agree time passes by soooo fast. I look at videos when she was about 3 or 4 and wow, it’s hard to think back on how little she was and how cute she was talking. NOw she is becoming a young lady.

I go through this struggles myself everyday and I had to really switch my priorities 2 years ago but just because I made that decision to slow it then that doesn’t mean that I don’t have to remind myself that I am a mom first of all and be there for Isadora first of all. I want to write so many blogs to help my fans, I want to do video tutorials about so many things that will help you guys, I want to create new free actions that will help those that can’t afford them, I want to do more sales, I want to do more giveaways, I want…. and the list goes on. But I do all that I can and WHEN I can. I will not sacrifies the time I have with Isadora to be the best in the industry. Nope, I would rather be the best mom first.. and if time allows once Isadora is grown up I am sure I can get that that has stayed tucked away in my heart for so long and follow it with all my heart. I could double and probably triple my income if I worked more, and then what would I do with that money?? Spend it on things?? I can never, EVER buy the time I had with my daughter and for me time is so so precious as we are never guaranteed tomorrow! I do want to go to Isadora’s gymnastics and yes I stay there for 2 hours sometimes 3 hours and I love watching her practice. I know that my mind could go on the many things I could do those hours but I try to always remind myself that she is only little for such a short time.

I hope this will help some of you that have been trying to balance this photography thing and your children. I know that when we first started in photography we thought, oh it’s so easy and I’ll edit when the kids are in bed. I did that too but my body will not let me go with very little sleep anymore. I need at least 7 hours of sleep now and I will not push my body by drinking coffee or other things to stay awake and not be able to be a mom in the morning. It is my believe that we have to first be faithful in the small things and I know that when time is right the clients will still be there, if not the ones that contacted you, maybe other clients that will be willing to pay so much more for your services. But please treasure your time with your kids now, don’t overbook yourself by having cheap, cheap rates. You can never buy the time back with your family, set your prices with the thought of how much that time away from your family is worth. For me that time is priceless at the time. I can’t do sessions on the weekends. That’s my time with Isadora, she is in school and gymnastics during the week so for me the time in the weekends is just priceless.

It would sadden my heart so much just thinking of the generation of kids we are raising and for them to say, my mom was a stay home mom but she was never there for me:(. We do have such an important role in shaping the next generation, don’t think that your role is not important. It is very important! And I was reading in a book, that sometimes God puts dreams in our hearts that are so big that it will take a few generations to make that dream come to life. I think many times that maybe Isadora will be the one making my dreams come true and I better raise her in such a way that she will have the same passion in her heart like I do. I have to be there for her and teach her what’s important in life, when all the kids are cheating at bingo in school she asked me, mama is it ok to cheat just a tiny bit by switching the papers? I could have said, Nope cheating is not ok. But I wanted to take the time and explain to her that when you cheat you actually cheat yourself first because you are cheating yourself from learning new things, you are cheating yourself by not going the hard way and learning and I explained to her that it’s ok to see others win over and over and over again, because God is watching and maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not in year, but soon her faithfulness in small things will be rewarded. And when we think about reward we think about money, but that is not always the case, for me the biggest reward is to have peace, to know that you are doing what you were born to do, to know that you are impacting peoples lives for better, that is far more of a reward for me. It is my wish that one day I will get to meet some of you and that you will remind me that you read this blog post, maybe not very grammatically correct, but you made the choice to be faithful in the small things!!

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Liz - April 11, 2012 - 2:05 pm

I truly appreciate this post and think about this daily, as a mom and photographer. I needed this today.

Tracey Page - April 11, 2012 - 2:10 pm

Hi Lidia. Thank you so much for this. I can’t even express what it means to me. My dream was always to be a stay-at-home-mum and now I have two beautiful children but I feel like I have given myself up. I’m not anywhere near the photographer I want to be, but I have to remind myself that the two beautiful kids in front of me are what I need to focus on for now. They are only 2.5 years and 10 months and need their mum.

You are so right about it seeming like every day is the same, but it still goes to fast. I read something once that sums it up perfectly for me “when you are a parent the days are long but the years are fast.”

Sheila - April 11, 2012 - 2:22 pm

Thanks so much for sharing this! You are so “right on target”! This is the very thing I have had to exam & re-evaluate for myself lately. As you share your thoughts from the heart, God is using you to help & bless others in ways you can’t even imagine.

Sadie - April 11, 2012 - 2:44 pm

Thanks so much for this post! It is hard to remember sometimes how fast time flies and our little ones grow up! Your post has helped me remember to put the small things aside and enjoy the time with my family more and create more memories there!

Melisa - April 11, 2012 - 2:46 pm

I loved this post. It was truly sweet and from the heart. I love reading your posts on here and status updates on facebook simply because you have a simple way of being positive. Children are definitely priceless treasures and now that I’m pregnant with my first, I think about how I will be spending my time and how I must prioritize now that I have a miniature me that will be present and depending on me to love and care for him. TIME is the most valuable thing any parent can give to their child(ren) and you are doing a beautiful job at that.

What most people don’t realize is that by spending that time with someone you love and even having the time to make memories with them, you’ll become even better at whatever career or even hobbies you choose to have. I’m sure you saw yourself improving with the more photographs you took of Isadora and look at you now. You are an Actions superstar with thousands of fans who purchase your material. A true blessing. May God continue to bless and inspire you and your little family. You truly deserve it.

Kelcy Hanson - April 11, 2012 - 2:49 pm

Wow! I couldn’t have said it any better myself. I feel like you just told my life story!! Thank you. I’m so glad somebody also feels the same way I do!

Danielle - April 11, 2012 - 2:59 pm

I loved reading this post!! As a stay at home mom to a 2 year old and a wedding and portrait photographer, this REALLY put things into perspective. Being a mommy comes FIRST and foremost. It is so hard sometimes to balance that… But I am a work in progress!! I so hope to meet you one day as your posts and photographs are extremely inspirational to me!!!! :)

Denise Dininger - April 11, 2012 - 3:01 pm

I am so glad I read this. . . I need to remember this when I am balancing being a mother and photographer.

Patsy J Lander - April 11, 2012 - 3:10 pm

Lidia…that was a beautiful message and straight from your heart!

Shanna-Kaye Fancher - April 11, 2012 - 3:12 pm

Lidia,
you brought tears to my eyes when I read this!
This is exactly what I needed to read. I have a 11 month old son, and he is growing so fast that this week I am just in awe of how fast time is going. I need to slow down and soak in the moments with him-thank-you for reminding me of that!

inna - April 11, 2012 - 3:24 pm

I love this post. Couldn’t have said it better myself.

tracy - April 11, 2012 - 4:52 pm

I admire you even more! I have been struggling with the dream I have to open my own photography business. However, I come back to the very feelings you expressed here. This brought tears to my eyes because everything you mention here are feelings I feel. The Lord sends signs and I feel this was a little bit of him telling me the answer I needed to hear. Thank you!

Jessica - April 11, 2012 - 5:11 pm

Could not have said it better myself! Really loved how honest and true this is, it brought tears to my eyes. With my own 5 little ones at home to take care of it’s nice to know I’m not the only one who needs to step back from work and refocus on what is REALLY important!

Lisa Fujioka - April 11, 2012 - 9:36 pm

Very, VERY inspiring. Thank you for all your inspiration, Lidia!

kathrin - April 11, 2012 - 10:42 pm

THANK YOU! I’m exactly there right now. The last couple months I was so focused on my business and totally forgot about my kids. I have two daughters, a two year old and a 8 month old. And I noticed they spent more time in front of the TV than with me. So actually just last week I decided to put my dreams on hold for a little bit longer and try to be there for them and just shoot when their dad can be there to watch them and try not to be away from the family for more than 2-3 hours. I’m so happy to know I’m not the only one thinking like this. Thank you.

Marcy - April 12, 2012 - 8:18 am

Lidia,
You put into words so beautifully what is in my heart. I too, have made the choice to work when I can, but to always choose my children first. I even inscribed on my journal “When given the choice, always choose the children. Always.” , as a reminder to myself. We all need those little reminders once in a while, and your blog post reaffirmed my decisions. Thank you for all you do, and you are such an inspiration in so many ways.

Kyla - April 12, 2012 - 10:55 am

I just wanted to let you know that although I don’t have kids of my own yet I’ve considered being a stay at home Mom so I can be with them and raise them myself. Reading your blog really put things into prospective for me and I want to thank you so much for always putting yourself out there and being so honest to yourself. There are not enough people like you in the world and I know God will have good things in store for you and Isadora. <3

Lacy - April 20, 2012 - 2:55 am

I have been up all night with my wide awake 6wk old baby reading your sites and blogs and being inspired by your every word. You truly are an amazing person!I hope to be the strong and faithful person you are one day. I admire you and your beautiful work. Isadora is one lucky little girl to have a mother she can look up to and be proud of. Thank you for all you do! ~Lacy

kim - April 20, 2012 - 3:51 pm

thank you so much for this post! well said

Brooke - April 20, 2012 - 4:02 pm

What a wonderful post!!! This really touched home with me….you said everything I feel. You truely are such an inspiration!!!

Debra Pavlicin - April 20, 2012 - 4:58 pm

<3 Oh so sweet, it was saturated with love.

<3 I shared it with my 2 grown children who are married & parents.

<3 I shared it with my 2 grown children yet to be parents to tell them how I feel through your words.

<3 God has richly blessed you.

Melissa Mowrey - April 20, 2012 - 7:42 pm

Wow, perfect timing. Really. My husband is preparing for a very long deployment and I’m so grateful for my children and my business but recently said that if it gets too busy, it all goes on hold to make sure my children know they have a mom who is there 100% of the time, because I’m making up for a daddy at far-away work. Thank you for writing this, it speaks volumes coming from someone who is successful and talented…to know when it’s time to slow down. God has been preparing me for this chapter in my life long before I knew it was going to happen, so for that, I am grateful for the creativity He has given me. But He also gives me grace. Thanks Lidia! Love your work!

Life with Kaishon - April 20, 2012 - 8:27 pm

Beautifully said. Thank you.

Marisa McBride - April 20, 2012 - 11:38 pm

Thank YOU so much…. I got tears in my eyes reading this, knowing that I am so guilty for taking on too much, editing while my kids watch tv or play wii, and practically living in front of my computer. I have a part time job as a Dietitian and just came into photography a few years ago and people tell me I am “good” at it and so it has blossomed! I haven’t figured out the right balance, and your post reminded me to STOP and smell the roses, laugh, giggle, and just BE with my family. Thank you!

Yvette Lincoln - April 21, 2012 - 11:44 am

Absolutely beautifully put! Thank you for sharing. :)

Julie Muchlinski - April 21, 2012 - 12:02 pm

Thanks for putting this into words, it really spoke to my heart. I have a 1 year old son and I got into photography the way you explained in your post…it’s tempting to capture memories for all these other people who seem to love your work, but then you realize that you’ve neglected your own memories. Thank you, I needed to read this!

Cynthia - April 21, 2012 - 1:14 pm

I stumbled across your blog today and read your beautifully stated post at a time when I needed it most. As the mother of three with a part time “day job” and a love and passion for photography.. finding balance to do it all is an every day struggle… I’m in the first year of starting my photography business and have found it especially challenging lately…. I find so much joy in my sessions but definitely been feeling the impact on time with my family. Your words helped bring some much needed perspective and I sincerely thank you for sharing. I will be spending some time today thinking about establishing new boundaries and new ways to be faithful to the small things!!!!!

Catharine - April 21, 2012 - 2:35 pm

What a beautiful, truthful look at why we are here! I love every word you have said in this post.

Kimberly - April 22, 2012 - 1:31 pm

Thank you for this reminder. I struggle daily with the guilt of not giving my 4 boys all of me. 2 are in school and 2 are still home with me. I have failed in my priorities so greatly at times! Needed this! Xoxo!

Aneta Gancarz - April 23, 2012 - 8:08 am

Beautiful post…you brought tears to my eyes when I read it!Very inspiring…Thank you!

Jennifer Duncan - April 23, 2012 - 2:20 pm

I love this post and your decision to put your child first makes me respect you more. Thank you for encouraging me to be the best parent to my little boy that I can be. He’s only two years old and I’m a single parent. Sometimes it is so hard not to get caught up in every day obligations and commitments. He is the MOST important thing to me, and I am putting my dreams on hold while I raise him to be a Godly Christian man. :)

Katie - April 24, 2012 - 8:11 pm

Thank you for writing from your heart, Lidia! This was something I needed to read, and it put things in perspective for me. I don’t let myself book more than 1 or 2 photo shoots a week, but sometimes I long to be able to be more creative, and spend more time doing it. But it’s such a great reminder that they don’t stay little very long. I have a 4 year old boy, and a little girl who is almost 2. I would hate to look back & realize I gave up part of their childhood just so I could be busier doing photography.

Alisha Meeboer - April 26, 2012 - 12:55 pm

All I can say is “thank-you” your blog really spoke to my heart. I am a mom of three children under four and I love photography. I am just getting started in it, but it is a dream in my heart to get big into it also. You have reminded me what a blessing and a privilege it is to stay at home and be with them every day; I must admit that between my classes and just practicing I have been trying to escape some of the mundane things of being a mom. I now have a new resolution to be their mom with all my heart. I truly do love your photos and especially the tutorial on backlighting; again thank-you :)

Zarah - May 3, 2012 - 12:11 am

I have to say this blog post is exactly what I needed to read! I have been struggling with balancing my husband, 3 small boys, homeschooling, and my new business. I really want to do so many things with my business and make it grow even bigger, but I am noticing it’s taking a toll on me and my family. I always wanted to be a stay at home mom and enjoy every minute of my kids lives, and I was starting to forget that. Thank you for reminding me of what is most important in life!!!

Kristi - May 3, 2012 - 8:17 pm

I just want to say thank you. I am trying to get into photography more (okay well, trying to figure out what I’m doing is more like it) and I literally was going through pictures the other night and realized I don’t have hardly any of my 12 year old daughter from the last couple of years, but I have tons of everyone and every thing else. I felt SO bad! We are going this weekend to do some. So your blog hit home for me. I do forget sometimes that it’s the small things and I need to stop looking every where else and enjoy the little girl in front of me.

Patty Schmidt - May 17, 2012 - 4:12 pm

Completely crying my eyes out!! Feel like you wrote this blog specifically for me. It really hit a nerve. I am a stay at home mom with a 3 and 5 year old boy trying to balance family life and a photography business. Thank you for taking the time to put it all in perspective for me.

cv love - June 11, 2012 - 6:05 am

So beautiful photos

Eunice - June 17, 2012 - 5:40 pm

Thank you for that reminder, you are so right. The time with our children are priceless.

Rachel Miskovich - June 21, 2012 - 11:48 am

This is so beautifully written…It really touches my heart! SOOOOOO TRUE…

Anna VInes - June 25, 2012 - 3:06 pm

Lidia,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I’ve love photography and am still trying to do it on the side. Before Sadie was 1, it was a little easier for me to go out and do photo sessions in the evening, but as she got older and because I work full time, I felt guilty for not spending the time with her or my husband. Plus the fact that I charge next to nothing. Your words were my exact feelings for my dreams of becoming a great/well sought out photographer. But, I don’t want to take someone else memories, and leave mine out. I thank you for sharing your wise thoughts and think of Isadora often. you are a true inspiration to MANY people, Lidia! All of your fans LOVE u!! And especialy ME!! –anna

Erin - July 2, 2012 - 8:53 pm

I really needed this post. Thank you so much! <3

April Warhurst - July 19, 2012 - 6:27 am

Hello Lidia. Just read your blog post. Now I’m gonna have puffy eyes all day long!!!! LOL……..Seriously though, thank you so much for sharing. I have 2 girls. Josie 7 and Jesse 5. After photographing on my own for a few years I joined HMP Studios as a staff photographer. I love when someone has shared such personal feelings and I can relate and not feel alone. God bless you and your family. As I am about to get on my knees and ask God for his guidance today, I will mention you<3 ~April.

Anette - September 9, 2012 - 1:09 pm

Thank you so much for sharing this post! I really needed to read that right now. I’m always trying to balance being a mom and a photographer, its hard but my lovely little boy always comes first! Thank you.

Marceli Chase - October 10, 2012 - 9:46 pm

Thank you for this post! I SO needed to be reminded of this!

Brandy Coggins - October 27, 2012 - 2:10 am

As I sit here at 3 in the morning because my mind and body are so tired from the life I am living with 3 children, all involved in extra curricular activities, its no coincidence that I came across this post of yours. God led me here. Thank you for sharing your heart. I feel this same way so many times about the competition of local photographers and “likes” and “fans”. My children need me. They need my undivided attention and in this crazy life we live that’s a hard thing to give. It is a blessing when i see my children being a reflection of the goodness and gentleness and kindness that i try to instill in them. And its even a blessing at times when i have to correct them and remind them of the right thing fo do. It keeps me and my arritude in check also. Thank you for this reminder.

Mandy - November 19, 2012 - 10:19 pm

Amen to all that you said. I know you wrote this awhile ago, but I am just now catching up on all my favorite blogs. I’m not an aspiring photographer, but I can relate to the dreaming big. I just wanted to say thank you for writing such a touching and honest post. I was in tears. I love being a mother to my four kids and was very inspired by all of your words. Thank you!

Anette - November 20, 2012 - 11:42 am

I love the one in coral!!

sandra barr - November 20, 2012 - 1:22 pm

cheeky lime classic is my favorite :) but I love the new livy collection also :) your camera Bags are awesome I will own one some day hopefully soon

LeAnn Yeates - November 20, 2012 - 1:22 pm

Beautifully written. I needed to read that today……………I am now in the generation of my grandchildren, and the choices are just the same. And just as important for our future. You are an amazing photographer and an even more amazing mother :-) .

Carissa - November 21, 2012 - 5:26 pm

Wow, you really spoke to my heart. Thank you. I have a one year old daughter and am a stay at home mom/photographer. I have been struggling with this lately, my business is growing and momentum is building and I don’t want to loose it. However, my little Violet is growing and even though I am home, I am editing and only half paying attention to her. She is my dream and this post helped me remember that. Also, I have been doing inexpensive Holiday mini sessions to build my business and I loved your advice on that. Your fellow photographer/momma/kindred spirit

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